Jim
Normal Person
Nobody is pestering and/or making fun of him. He barely comes here anymore so pestering him is impossible.
I also only funny rated comments that were intended to be funny.
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I also only funny rated comments that were intended to be funny.
Kitsune
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You want us to open ourselves up to potshots?
I have anger issues and a fragile ego.
You have a full-time job. Your mom stealing your hard-earned paychecks is a different matter.
Natty
Polymath Laundry Lesbap
Aside from cheating on one. I exploded at an ex partner and yelled a lot.
We broke up and was forced to live together for 6 months. We had a fight about something, pretty sure it was about her going to a friend's who'd constantly abuse her. She would come back and be distraught everytime. I told her that she's free to do what she wants, we're broken up, but she's going into a wolves den and I can't be there to comfort her when she gets back. She got offended and called me cold for it, she started to raise her voice and I did too in response. She then started poking and prodding at personal stuff and I told her to leave the room or let me leave otherwise I'll explode and scream. She refused to move and blocked my way out.
She then started to taunt me, "oh you think you're strong? You're too much of a pussy to beat me like my exes did, why don't you hit me like them??"
I was furious that she was taunting me to not only hit her, but that I was weak for not doing that?? Like there was an expectation I'd give into that?? No!! I yelled at the top of my lungs to get out and leave me alone, she backed out into the hallway putting her hand on the door frame, still taunting me. I yelled at her to get out of the way of the door, shoved her arm out of the way and slammed the door.
I'm proud of myself for getting out of that relationship incredibly quick, she was emotionally manipulative and crazy. i was justified in being upset, and I think I did well in wanting to get myself out of the situation for a bit to cool off, but her not respecting that was intensely awful. However, I still feel bad I couldn't really control my anger in that moment better, even though I did the best I could.
I got a fun weekend planned and excited to see her and friends. I'm introducing her to some friends which should be fun.
Sunrider
Former Whorekage
Plenty of days where I wanted to fire back but let it go.
Sometimes how you feel about them outweighs how you feel in the moment so the fight is small potatoes. When that ratio changes you know it's time to go.
That's so ugly, she was right to walk.
I mean there's certainly something ego-massaging about someone realizing what they had with you, but for most of the women I've been with, it just wouldn't work because I'm not the same guy; we can't work again because I don't vibe with them like I once did.
In my defense I never had the slightest clue she was as sensitive about her weight as she was; up to then she'd always been pretty even-tempered about pretty much everything so I never figured it'd be a sore spot for her. She's very funny and sharp-witted so I just assumed that was the mood for the moment.I mean, am I the only one who thinks this wasn't even bad? Sounds like tit for tat to me
But having said that, my retort was entirely vengeful and unnecessary; looking back I realize I wasn't engaging in playful ribbing when I responded. I could have communicated my hurt and moved on without wounding her in turn.
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Cardboard Tube Knight
Polymath Alchemist
So we just chose violence today?
This was way before and also I was way younger so caution there. She would call crying or I would call her and she'd be crying when I called or it would hurt her work and social life and just occupy her time. I already can't deal with my friends crying, it just really makes me upset and it is one of those things that some friends have even learned they could do to get me to do things ( I can usually tell with them now). She was not faking it because one she's a terrible actress and she can't lie to save her life. She called one time real upset and mentioned she was scared he might do something rapey to her for something she said and I told her if he did it I would kill him, so if she cares what happens to bro at all cut him all the way off. Which just upset her more and scared her more I swear, I'm not nearly that bad anymore.
Cardboard Tube Knight
Polymath Alchemist
Applebees always smells like dirty mop water.@DemonDragonJ I was just thinking if you need a good compromise you could take her to Applebees.
It's Mexican Spaghetti soup. It has some of the same parts. I know it's not exactly like it. It's like how Lasagna is just Italian enchiladas.
pfft
Mesaytara
Sunrider
Former Whorekage
Plenty of people on the spectrum that don't harbor unrealistic expectations for romance, chauvinism or racism (casual or otherwise).
His trash takes are simply his trash takes and if he doesn't wanna get roasted for them, he's welcome to pause and reflect because that's not outside an autistic person's capabilities.
Gunners
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No, @Magic is correct.
Calling a spade a spade, it is ironic that on the last page there was talk about people hiding unsavoury aspects of their character. How many people here roasting DDJ would be willing to let the people they know that's what they decide to do in their free time.
In most communities, you'd be looked at as a twat for ripping into a person on the spectrum. It is bullying under the guise of providing feedback.
Do you want to look at the last page and tell me that anything he said warranted saying that people who see him might think he mentally retarded?
Bazu'aal
An enlightened and stoic polymath
prob denying marriage proposals for dumb reasons
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Cardboard Tube Knight
Polymath Alchemist
I mean, it would depend what the person on the Spectrum is doing. I think that this isn't the case with DDJ because he's not in here doing it. But there are people online who say something racist, homophobic, or sexist and the moment they are called out they're like "You're being ableist. I'm on the spectrum!"
Magic
adios
Flow
dont want to spend a life with regret
Some of you went story mode, so I will give one of mine as well -
When I was stationed in Germany, I was with a woman for a little over 2 years. We both hated the fact that I was PCsing (transitioning) back to the US, and she would be going to do some contract work in another part of the world for the German government. They needed Russian speakers for her position in particular and were adamant of her service. I knew it was not going to work. But it was legitimately the first time I had ever been romantically in love with another person, not just liking the person and loving the sex.
Her and I talked about it, and she was trying to find different ways to make it work. Each conversation, I knew I was not for it. So it lingered on, and it was painful seeing her try to make strong points of how it could work. She advocated that I should leave the military and I could move with her, she even brought marriage up. Immediately I told her no, and that I could not leave the Army just to be with her.
None of what I said sounds terrible, it was what I did after. I told her "lets just finish our time together strong, before you and I leave," and she reluctantly agreed. It was a vague "relationship." I should have just ended everything. It was a bitch-ass thing I did. I emotionally withdrew from the romance. As her time came to leave (she would coincidentally leave first out of Gemany), I began missing talking with other women like I had been doing when I first came out there. I made the bitch-ass excuse to "cement" the fact that we were leaving to start canceling out on dates to do my own bullshit. I talked with other women on the side up at the last bit before she left. It was incredibly selfish, at my convenience I was enjoying her time, the sex, still traveling around, still was in her circle of friends when I should have just ended everything and began to focus on coming back to the US. As each month came before she left first, and then I left, it was taking a toll on her, but she never really told me about it until the very end. I always feel guilty thinking about that shit.
What is important to me though, I think she has moved on.
Whenever I complain too much about a woman I'm with not being considerate, I should remind myself of the bullshit I used to be on.
When I was stationed in Germany, I was with a woman for a little over 2 years. We both hated the fact that I was PCsing (transitioning) back to the US, and she would be going to do some contract work in another part of the world for the German government. They needed Russian speakers for her position in particular and were adamant of her service. I knew it was not going to work. But it was legitimately the first time I had ever been romantically in love with another person, not just liking the person and loving the sex.
Her and I talked about it, and she was trying to find different ways to make it work. Each conversation, I knew I was not for it. So it lingered on, and it was painful seeing her try to make strong points of how it could work. She advocated that I should leave the military and I could move with her, she even brought marriage up. Immediately I told her no, and that I could not leave the Army just to be with her.
None of what I said sounds terrible, it was what I did after. I told her "lets just finish our time together strong, before you and I leave," and she reluctantly agreed. It was a vague "relationship." I should have just ended everything. It was a bitch-ass thing I did. I emotionally withdrew from the romance. As her time came to leave (she would coincidentally leave first out of Gemany), I began missing talking with other women like I had been doing when I first came out there. I made the bitch-ass excuse to "cement" the fact that we were leaving to start canceling out on dates to do my own bullshit. I talked with other women on the side up at the last bit before she left. It was incredibly selfish, at my convenience I was enjoying her time, the sex, still traveling around, still was in her circle of friends when I should have just ended everything and began to focus on coming back to the US. As each month came before she left first, and then I left, it was taking a toll on her, but she never really told me about it until the very end. I always feel guilty thinking about that shit.
What is important to me though, I think she has moved on.
Whenever I complain too much about a woman I'm with not being considerate, I should remind myself of the bullshit I used to be on.
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pfft
Mesaytara
Kitsune
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This is a very mature take. Sometimes the most important part of a relationship is what you don’t say. It can take a long time to really realize this.
Being right or wrong simply isn’t as important as reaching a mutual understanding. Nobody is going to remember the details of most arguments, while hurtful words exchanged with someone you trust can easily be remembered forever.
It can feel vulnerable and scary to let go of “winning” but any partner worth having would never take advantage of you for doing so.
pfft
Mesaytara
lol I become a downright autobiographical novelist when it comes to arguments with someone I felt comfortable with enough to be in my circle where I actually care for you.
If your a couple then I do think some ppl retain that info cuz next time that won’t be happening again.
Flow
dont want to spend a life with regret
Naw fr, you think what she did was ok?
Kitsune
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Their whole situation came off as tacky reality tv drama but people act like she committed a crime. Wouldn’t your vitriol be better spent elsewhere?
What’s your opinion of Tory Lanez?
Flow
dont want to spend a life with regret
Who is calling for her to be jailed?
What Tory Lanez did was fucked up. He deserves prison, I thought the case seemed convoluted but at its conclusion I accepted it for what it was, especially after the phone conversation. Lmao at your "gotcha" attempt though, I see you..
Bazu'aal
An enlightened and stoic polymath
pffft arguing is what the cafe is for
Magic
adios
What was her ethnicity?
Pretty cool, explains you saying you wanted to learn German. I was like "what's he need that for?" so you must really like the culture over there.
Magic
adios
that's hot, Russian accent?
nice man
Magic
adios
What would you have done differently if you could go back and try again?
Cardboard Tube Knight
Polymath Alchemist
I just had some stuff I was curious about, not even things that are really related to each other.
Have you ever seen a friend or partner or someone you know doing something oddly normal and nonsexual in some way that was attractive or even sexy that you just didn't know where it came from or why you felt like that about it?
I think of an example I have probably mentioned before, but a friend of mine I had no interest in was feeding her friend's baby with a little bottle and holding it and kind of curled up on the bench seat a restaurant with it and I wasn't looking at her or anything and she said something and I glanced up and my first thought was "why does she look so insanely hot right now".
Glad I got that shit out of my head because the last thing I want to do is have a kid.
second question: would you date someone that has an onlyfans? Like what if they were just like doing Miss Princess Kay style shit, only her with no people and all solo content? If they wanted you to, would you help them with it.
I can tell you right now some of these chicks need to learn about lighting and framing a shot.
Have you ever seen a friend or partner or someone you know doing something oddly normal and nonsexual in some way that was attractive or even sexy that you just didn't know where it came from or why you felt like that about it?
I think of an example I have probably mentioned before, but a friend of mine I had no interest in was feeding her friend's baby with a little bottle and holding it and kind of curled up on the bench seat a restaurant with it and I wasn't looking at her or anything and she said something and I glanced up and my first thought was "why does she look so insanely hot right now".
Glad I got that shit out of my head because the last thing I want to do is have a kid.
second question: would you date someone that has an onlyfans? Like what if they were just like doing Miss Princess Kay style shit, only her with no people and all solo content? If they wanted you to, would you help them with it.
I can tell you right now some of these chicks need to learn about lighting and framing a shot.